I got nothing left inside of my chest*

[bending_sickle]

This just in: Mom has apparently threatened to kick me out of the house September 1. Dad isn't saying anything about this.

So yeah.


* "All Alright", Fun.

Comments

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

*hugs you to within an inch of your life*

I wish there was something I could say, love, but I'm just stuck with *hugs* And also, with all due respect, your mom's an asshole.

[framedhim.livejournal.com]

As a mother who is constantly trying to help her very young daughter who suffers from severe anxiety issues and mild depression, may I just say that you are awarded all the hugs. And understanding. And light pushes that enable you. I can't do much, I'll listen and read, but I can offer up all those hugs and an ear (internet eyes) to boot. Be well, lovely. You deserve it and so much more.

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

*huggles back fiercely*

Not all that much respect is due, considering.

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

Thank you very much for your hugs and everything. Light pushes are just the thing, as opposed to "here, let me shove you into this abyss" which is what this feels like right now. (I mean, sheesh! I was already working on leaving.) Thank you again <3

[framedhim.livejournal.com]

absolutely, ♥

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

*smishes you*

I don't suppose there are any jobs near your bro? I remember you needing a passport to visit him. You've probably already thought of that tho.

*moar hugs*

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

Bro's in Chicago (USA), which means that to get a Visa to go live there I'd need to already have a job, but not living there already reduces my chances of getting a job, so it's this big messy circle of not going to happen.

In related news, any horrible things I should know about Birmingham or Manchester? Kinda narrowed it down to those two cities.

*SUPER HUGS*

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

They're both a bit rough, but then so are the majority of UK cities really :/ It's where you are in the city. Manchester hasn't been bombed by the IRA recently but it was on fire a short while back. Birmingham has some racial tensions going on. Apart from that they're a bit far from me to give the real ins and outs, I've only visited.

OMG I've made my country sound terrible. Manchester has cool shopping and rock clubs and it's easy to get over the border into Wales, and Birmingham has a massive Asian population so you might be able to get those mangoes you like there.

*gives you all the snuggles and then some*

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

D: Oh crap, right, those things happen too. I've just been going through a lot of cities' wikis, checking out their economy, main sectors and unemployment shenanigans. I figured since they're big cities with universities and whatsit, I'd have a good chance of finding some sort of job.

On the other hand, mangoes \o/

*cuddles back*

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

I think the easiest jobs to get at the moment are in telesales, and a lot of the places seem to know that people are only there until they find something better. It's annoying work and they dick people around a lot, but it pays rent and such until something else comes along. Virgin call-centres have the best reputation. A university town might have more opportunities for less soul-destroying things like bookshops tho. Manchester and Birmingham aren't really terrible, I was just responding to the 'horrible things' part of your question.

See, I knew the mangoes would be worth mentioning XD

*hugs* It'll all work out, hon ♥

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

Ugh yes telesales. I've come to terms that it will have to be an option (if a hellish one). And I hear there's these magical things called job centres? Do I seriously just basically walk up and say, "Here is my CV, can you help me please find a job, k thnx?"

Thanks for the info and the support and the huggles. I'm still very much panicking and freaking out about this. Hell, I was even when it was just an idea of something that I wanted to do and not, y'know, because of impending homelessness because of insane fuckery, which kind of puts a damper on the whole experience.

Again, thanks, and *snuggles*

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

Oh god yes, job centres. To be honest it didn't even occur to me that they'd be anything other than normal, even decent sized villages have them here. Maybe a good sign? And yeah, you register and you give them your CV, and they'll help you, they've got targets to hit so they want people in work. And there's usually touch-screen computers in the main lobby with all the jobs listed too, you just press options until it's narrowed down - what type of work, how far you can travel, how many hours, that kind of thing - and then you print out a list. With some of the jobs you'll need to get more info from the counter, but some will have phone numbers on your print-out so you're good to go. Or they have JobseekersPlus online too if you want to take a shufty. Temping agencies can be pretty good here too, in all the ones near us you're looking at six month placements instead of three/four days.

You're more than welcome, hon ♥ I think freaking out is a very natural response, to be honest, it would be even if you were feeling well which you obviously aren't. I just hope this all works out for you ♥

*so very many huggles for you*

[phantmgreeneyes.livejournal.com]

If you live anywhere near Minnesota, you're welcome to kip with me! <3 if your parents stop being twats, that is.

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

So basically have all my undying gratitude and love and huggles and declarations of how wonderful a person you are, okay? Here you go ♥

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

♥! You're a darling *huggles* But yeah I'm kinda all the way across the pond in Italy so... But thank you so much for the kind thought and offer though. *more huggles*

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

*snugs you* Any time, love. As I've said before, you are made of awesome and huggles. ♥

Also Lana's reminded me that with some jobs here, especially university and council ones, they legally have to advertise through jobseekers and the employment news even if they have an internal candidate who's definitely going to be promoted into it. It's some idiot scheme the government thought would be clever but in the real world it just leaves people getting their hopes up for no reason. But one way of working with it is to mention in your cover letter that if a position in a lower grade comes open you'd appreciate being considered for that too, that way if the promotee is leaving a space (and they often are) you've got your foot in the door for that job early.

ILU and I wish you all the luck ♥

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

mention in your cover letter that if a position in a lower grade comes open you'd appreciate being considered for that too - Oooh that's brilliant advice! Thank you both!

*snuggles you forever* ♥

[seschat.livejournal.com]

Also, uh, I kinda have two beds in my room, which we put there for my Gran but who never comes to visit anyway. While obviously I have my fingers crossed like WHOA that your parents see sense, I got a place for you right here. *holds you*

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

*CRIES LIKE A PUPPY ON YOUR DOORSTEP* No but I couldn't live with myself imposing so much. I mean if it's that or homelessness Imma hitchhike to your house for sure, but I AM GOING TO GET A JOB AND A FLAT IN THE LAND OF THE ENGLISH. In time for Christmas. And then you're coming to eat all the baked goods.

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

We're just glad we can offer at least some help ♥ ♥

Keep your chin up and remember you're awesome, lovey *even more snuggles and a bonus smish*

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

*cuddles the bonus smish*

Aaand I talked to my parents today over lunch and apparently what my mom meant so say was, "Go have a more active social life." This was not what she said yesterday. I just *confused hand gestures* So I'm not being kicked out of the house...?

[capn-mactastic.livejournal.com]

*huggles you*

At this point I honestly don't know whether to do a flaily YAY or scream GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT because your mom seems to be the Mistress of Mindfuck. I'll go with both: *Flaily YAY dance that you have more time to organise your escape plan*

[bending-sickle.livejournal.com]

A flaily yay is indeed in order \o/ And the thing is she understands and agrees with the reasoning behind my escape plan. (Well, the bit that is about "if I have to take menial jobs at least let it be someplace I want to be" and "I'll have a better shot at jobs if I'm already local". Don't know if she'; acknowledge the "for the sake of my sanity and emotional well-being" part of it.)